My husband and I have been watching the show #TemptationIsland. For those of you who don’t know about it, quick overview. The show features 4 couples, who are between the ages of 25-40. None of them are married but they’ve been together for some years. One couple, has trust issues from things that happened in the past. One couple, she was being pressured by her family to get married so she was pressuring him. One couple, although they’ve been together for years, they don’t deeply love each other. And the last one, he wants a commitment and she doesn’t. Now, take these couples, split them up and put them into houses with single men and women. What do you think will happen? I’ll tell you, less resisting and more giving in to temptations. You want to know why? The relationships were already on shaky ground and bound to explode, all it needed was the match. I don’t care how long you’ve been with a person, when there is a crack in the ship of your relationship, one you aren’t willing to repair, adding weight can cause it to sink. This is why, you are bound to give in to temptation, when it presents itself. This is why your work boo can get you to smile when your spouse can’t. This is why you’ll leave the house and sin, when there is an argument, instead of sitting your butt down, cooling off and staying in.
Beloved, lookahere, y’all have to stop investing all of your money in the wedding and overlooking the marriage. Sure, y’all look real cute in your wedding photos but what good is it, if you have to decide who gets them in the divorce? Yeah, your reception was lit but now, the only thing burning is your vows. Where is the premarital and marriage counseling? Who is teaching y’all how to be husbands, wives, mothers and fathers? Where are your morals and values? Understand, the couples above aren’t married but they made a commitment to each other that could be easily broken by temptation. The same as your wedding vows. And please, stop comparing your relationship to grandma and grandpa’s 65 year marriage. YOU AIN’T BUILT THE SAME! Then, they were married at 15, raising ten and twenty children off one income, in a 3 bedroom house, they stuck and stayed through problems, they held on for better and worse, they bought hogs and had them cut up for the meat to last months, Grams washed and ironed and had dinner on the table when granddaddy got home, she taught the boys & girls how to take care of a house while he instilled a strong work ethic and they took care of each other when sickness showed up until death did they part. Y’all, though, you give up too easy. And you got the mitigated gall to blame temptations. Nawl baby, it’s you because the enemy will only tempt you with what you’re craving. However, you got the power to resist and when you don’t, it’s your fault. Bible shares in 1 Corinthians 10:13, “The temptations in your life are no different from what others experience. And God is faithful. He will not allow the temptation to be more than you can stand. When you are tempted, he will show you a way out so that you can endure.” God shows you the way out but you’ll miss it when your eyes are of the flesh and not the Father. Don’t give in, instead stay, be willing to fix it while praying, “And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from the evil one, Matthew 6:13.”